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Sorry I have been a bit off and on lately, my life has been a bit off and on lately!  I have been going through some struggles both in my diet and in my *real* life.  I have been struggling not to allow that to be reflected in my food choices; I have been successful and not successful..  Between problems with my family, looking for a new house, and the emotions that come with both, throw in some traveling, a death of a friend's father and it's been a two week trip in crazy town.  

I have issues with my family, often times I feel like the red-headed stepchild, unfortunately I'm often treated like one as well.  So I have been going through some nuts-o and blatant favoritism with my sister & her children, who are, as my mother said to me the other day "her boys."  Yes, not including my boy into "her boys," and it's just grating on me and my nerves lately.  I have a lump in my stomach just typing this.  I guess when it was just me being treated "unequally" it wasn't such a bother, but now that it's being reflected upon my son, it's driving me nuts.  I called her out a bit on it last week and she just blows me off like I'm being hysterical, or like I'm rocking the boat.  So, it's with all my strength that I don't walk into the pantry and self medicate every time I talk to her.  

On top of that we have been back and forth to the Bay Area a few times, with no luck and I'm just wanting to get it done or not so we know what the heck is going on with my life!  

Good news, I've kept up with my running/walking attempts and my food, while atrocious on some days, has been more good then bad.  So the thing that brought me here was GOALS, i need to set them and stay accountable, it is so much easier when I have them written here with everyone cheering me on and setting me straight.

  1. Journal, everything.
  2. Run/walk/repeat.  choose a day to rest.
  3. Post/check in 4 days.
  4. When I want to emotional eat, stop, breath, & think about it first.

That's it, I hope everyone is doing great, I'm going to go check up on y'all right now!

Cheers ~ lynette

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Comment by Keem on February 29, 2012 at 8:09am

Glad you're being mindful with it. :)

Comment by Paula on February 29, 2012 at 10:00am

I can so relate to what you have written. I have 1 sister and my parents have always favored her. Not really sure why. She just really knows how to play them. My father died last April and the one thing he said to me before he died was how very sorry he was for me thinking he loved my sister more. That it was not true and it took cancer and dying for him to realize just how much he truly loved me. It meant a lot to hear that even though it was a little too late. Bottom line is to know that even though they show the favoritism to your sister, it isn't necessarily how they feel. Just be sure to protect your son from any negative talk. The most important thing to him is how much is Mother loves him. Trust me.

Comment by Melissa Moore-Price on February 29, 2012 at 6:12pm
Isnt it crazy how those stressfully times just make you wanna eat? I'm the same way! Sorry you have to deal with favoritism in your family. When that happens it just sad and unfair. Good Job on setting you goals and staying focused on them:)
Comment by Dee on February 29, 2012 at 7:34pm

I've been slacking on the goal-setting and posting myself, and am working on staying connected, because it really does help. Your 4-point plan is all you need to keep yourself on track- along with BTL cheers, of course!

Sorry about the family drama- it's frustrating when people you love react to your comments with "That's not true!" instead of caring about the fact that you're feeling that way. They worry more about defending themselves then stopping and saying, "I don't want my loved one to feel that way- how can we work on this?". I'm glad you have a plan for not letting your mom's insensitivity become your problem, via food. Would you also consider having fruits and veggies chopped up, so that when you really are fighting and want to eat something, at least its healthy? I have developed some favorites: a fruit salad, usually an apple mixed with a plum or nectarine, sometimes also with orange slices and banana. It is YUM and when I have it around, does a lot to satisfy the Snack Monster. I also LOVE hummus and making my own just with a can of chickpeas, a few minutes in the food processor, and just a tad bit of olive oil, and even better, heated up. (and your fave seasonings, like garlic powder). It tastes like decadence, but is so healthy- a small amount of EVOO adds to your healthy fats quotient.

Hope that this tumultuous time passes soon!  

Comment by Jill Mace on March 1, 2012 at 2:51pm

I am sorry about your family stuff.  I give you credit for trying to bring it up- I am just the sorry the response you got was not one that was helpful or made you feel safe enough to bring up issues.  I understand how we feel more strongly about things when they effect our own kids.  There is nothing stronger than a mothers protective instinct!  He is lucky you are his mom.

I hope things calm down for you soon.  Stress is another thing that makes this journey of ours even harder. 

Hopefully talking about it here has brought you some comfort! Hugs!

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