I need therapy

Comment by Small Town Mom on September 25, 2012 at 7:04pm

You need to go.  It'll help to get it out in the open.  Just talking to others will help you feel better.  I felt the same way about telling anyone I needed to lose weight but after telling them I felt freer.  Go - it'll be good for you.

Comment by Paula on September 25, 2012 at 8:40pm

Going to therapy is hard. The stigma is hard. I have a few family members & friends that suffer from mental illness (depression, manic depressive) and they often feel like they are damaged. Some people even view them as "weak" (ignorance) I vote for going. It will help you deal with your situation. I think just knowing that you are not alone. That is the most helpful thing for me here. Knowing I am not alone and receiving support. It might be good to have someone who you can share with that knows exactly what you are going through.

Comment by Lynette S on September 25, 2012 at 11:36pm

I agree with Paula, I think there is still a stigma in our society. People are afraid to admit to weakness. Going to therapy isn't a weakness, it is asking for help. Just like you would ask a co-worker for help, sometimes we need help to get our thoughts, ideas, and motivations, squared away with what we want. Do it, at least once, try it out, if you hate it, you don't need to go back.

Comment by RollerCoaster on September 26, 2012 at 11:11am

Sounds like you have some mixed feelings about therapy which is totally normal.  Everyone has this.  But what's the alternative?  Staying stuck in confusion, unhappiness, sadness?  Neither way of living is comfortable but at least if you are going to therapy, there is the hope of something better, some movement in your life.  No, it won't be fun, it will be uncomfortable.  Recognize that and choose to go anyway.  Good luck I can't wait to hear how it goes!  For the record, I have been in therapy and my philosophy is that EVERYONE can gain from it, no matter how "perfect" their life seems to be. :)

Comment by Dee on September 26, 2012 at 1:36pm

Thanks EVERYONE for the push! I'm gonna go check it out this evening. @RollerCoaster, you hit the nail on the head, it's the discomfort of addressing your issue that makes therapy so aversive. As a (once and future) therapist, stigma isn't an issue, I believe as you do that everyone can gain from it, which is why I find it borderline amusing that when I need it, even I run into the same fear-of-facing that clients do! Will update after! 

Comment by Jill Mace on September 26, 2012 at 3:49pm

Having mixed feelings about therapy is normal.  It is scary to call a stranger, meet that stranger and then talk about our personal issues with that stranger.  I have been in therapy.  My background is in counseling.  My honest opinion is that most people could use a therapist for one reason or another.  Make sure you find someone that you are comfortable with.  If you can find the right person- I think you will be so thankful that you made that "first" call.

With that said- I am so sorry you are struggling with fertility issues.  I cannot imagine the frustration and heart ache you must be feeling.  It is so hard when you want something so badly and you cannot control it.  I think finding people that are in your similar situation to talk to will be helpful.  If you find the group concept too uncomfortable maybe you can consider one on one?

Comment by Dee on September 27, 2012 at 2:23pm

@Jill- thank you so much for this feedback. I had a good experience at the session, and I do think  I would like to follow-up 1-1. I will also go back to the support group. It is very, very different talking to people who know exactly what I'm dealing with! Heartbreaking though- there are some tough stories out there. 

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