Fat girl syndrome

Comment by Angie Y on October 23, 2012 at 10:20pm

I have image issues as well.....I still see that 230 lb girl in the mirror. Some people need some more time than others I think just to process the amount of weight that you actually have lost. 

I am not satisfied with my weight where it is ( I have the loose skin and stretch marks as well)..but then I think,.um 230 or 180....that always makes me feel a little better. lol

Just keep going Jess...remember that exercise and eating right isn't just about losing the weight...

It's keeping you healthy. :)

Comment by Jessica Green on October 23, 2012 at 10:25pm

Lol thank you so much. I'm hoping i will just wake up one day and be like hello gorgeous! I guess i just had better hopes for my body though too. I keep forgetting that i've had 3 kids and always been heavy, i wasnt going to have this tight toned firm little body when the weight came off. But i am happy that i am only 13 pounds away from being under 200 pounds for the first time in a very long time. 

Comment by Angie Y on October 23, 2012 at 10:30pm

Definitely something to be proud of mama!! <3 Hitting that 199 mark is amazing!! Cant wait to hear about how you feel when you get there. :D 

Comment by Jessica Green on October 23, 2012 at 10:52pm

Oh wow I just looked at your profile and saw the slideshow. You look amazing!! And you are very beautiful. Congrats on your losing you have done wonderfully. Thank you for your encouraging words, somtimes you just need to hear it from someone who knows what youre going through. My 125 pound, never been over weight a day in his life hubby just doesn't cut it encouragement wise sometimes. Lol!

Comment by Angie Y on October 23, 2012 at 10:56pm

Thanks Jess I really appreciate that. Ive had my ups and downs the past 8 months believe me!! :)

Funny about your hubby..mine is 6'4 and 140 lbs soaking wet,skin and bones. He does not get it either believe meeee!!! 

Comment by Jessica Green on October 23, 2012 at 11:01pm

You are definitely doin it. Its hard to believe seein your progress pics that you were ever a 22. Amazing! Yeah when i talk about dieting, exercise, or weight loss issues his eyes glaze over and he just gives me an uh huh, or oh yeah, or good job honey. Lol!

Comment by Keem on October 24, 2012 at 7:50am

You may always feel that way.  Even when I was 10 pounds under my goal weight, when I looked in the mirror, I wasn't happy with what I saw.  You'd think that being in my ideal weight range on the BMI things etc would be good enough--I was just a perfectionist.  I realized that even though I was under my starting goal weight, I didn't like what I saw--and let's suppose I got my spare tire liposuctioned--would I be happy? No.  I would not like the flab under my arms---and if I got that fixed, it would be the cellulite on the backs of my legs etc etc--and if I had the body of a supermodel---I would be unhappy that my teeth weren't white enough or that a couple aren't 100% straight on the bottom or that my pores show--or that my hair gets frizzy....

I realized that I would always be picking SOMETHING--and even if I ever got to the point of having myself at 100%, it would be too hard to maintain.  If having the body of a supermodel meant 6 hours of workouts a day, I couldn't maintain that for the rest of my life.  If having nicely white teeth meant that I could never have anything with color in it any more, that would be a sad way to live.....get my point?

I realized that I had to embrace my many imperfections and realize that GOOD ENOUGH is not so bad.  I had to look at the things I LIKED about myself and focus on those--and when I get out of the shower and see my reflection--instead of letting my eyes zoom in on my spare tire (as usual) I have to make a conscious effort to focus my eyes on something else.  If I spent all of my time focusing on my imperfections and hating myself for them--and feeling like less of a person for not being perfect---that's no way to live--that's not the way to find happiness.

HTH. :)

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