No matter the plan... we all Blog to Lose!

And....

Yesterday there was exbf the asshole drama. I do not speak to him. No contact. But we have mutual friends on fb (he blocked me-- which is beyond ridiculous). HIs friends will not drop me as they all realize I was the best thing that happened to him and he refused marriage and the end was his fault.

Immediately after stopping our reconciliation (actually overlapping) he started dating this ex coworker. within 2 weeks he madly loved her. whatever. poor lady. does not even know she is the rebound (he is a massively good liar).

anyways, without all details...he has an 18 yr headed off to college and a 12 yr old. the oldest hate shim for various reasons. but back when we broke up in nov, the ex started playing family with his exwife and kids. as in spent christmas and easter with them and her family. snday dinners. etc. i know this but he lies to everyone else and told them i was crazy. ok whatever. then in the spring when he started dating this new chick, he ditched family time. he skipped the daughters recital to take new gf away etc (i felt bad..i was mom like for that kid for five yrs).

so the summer comes and apparently he spends all his money on the gf and they go away all the time. no vaca for the youngest though (with me she always had a vaca). and the son refuses to have dad at his grad party.

well, yesterday, the gf for some reason decided to write on a mutual friends wall asking if he was going to come on the sailboat. now the ex has always wantd one, but logical me pointed out things like we had no money, no place to store it etc. and he always said i was crushing his dreams and not supporting him. ok whatever. guess she supports you. cause his ass bough a sailboat AND a new car to tow it.

he did this the week before his kid goes to college and turns out he is paying NOTHING for the kid to go to college, despite the divorce agreement saying he has to.

i am sickened at who he has become. though, a mutual friend pointed out he has always been selfish like this, but for the 5 yrs with me i made him better and stopped this shit, but he never actually changed.

ok...vent over.

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Comment by Jessica on August 12, 2012 at 9:13am: Sounds like you dodged a bullet! It's unfortunate for the kids but in the end he has to be the one to want to be in their lives :\

Comment by Meg H on August 12, 2012 at 10:10am: yeah well his extended family is one that makes excuses and blames everyone but him so he can be the perpetual victim. so according to them, i ruined his life for five years and the new woman is his savior. ok, um, in 6 months withher he has spent more money thean he did with me in 5 yrs AND he no longer has a relationship with one of his kids. yup. much better:) LOL

Comment by Erica on August 12, 2012 at 10:44am: You know the truth and that's all that counts! Amazing you put up with this BS for as long as you did! You have a bright future ahead of you without him!

Comment by Meg H on August 12, 2012 at 10:53am: i never allowed this BS. ever. if i was with him and he pulled this not paying for college i would have left. the fact that she thinks it is ok (like she thought it was ok for him to take her away for a weekend and for the first time ever in 10 yrs miss his daughter's dance recital...the recital he gets her flowers for and no matter who else does she brings his onstage at the end...) tells you a lot about who he thought was a good replacement. LOL

i challenged him to be a better person. looks like he turned down that challenge. lol

Comment by Keem on August 12, 2012 at 12:20pm: Glad his true colors are shining through! :P

Comment by Paula on August 12, 2012 at 2:07pm: Be glad he is out of your life. Why do you even care what he is doing with the new girlfriend or anything else for that matter? Forget him as quickly as possible. This guy sounds like a real loser. Who would care for anyone who could be so terrible to his own children is beyond me.

Comment by Meg H on August 12, 2012 at 2:11pm: normally i do not know. and my friends who do know don't talk about it. no, i only know because bizarrely the new gf made this post on a mutual friends fb asking if he was going to come sailing etc with them. everyone is in agreement she only did it for me to see, since the mutual friend works with the ex and knew about the boat for days.

and keem, for me and my friends his colors are well and truly thru. it pisses me off his family still choses to be blind and decided to villify me...the person their kids called aunt. whatever. they are all losers.

Comment by Angie Y on August 12, 2012 at 3:49pm: Men are fucking assholes that only care about themselves ...the end.

Comment by Cindy on August 12, 2012 at 9:35pm: All the way from the first to the last responses on here - I wholeheartedly agree. That guy is so not worth the time of day. A sailboat AND a car?! WTF? Mid-life crisis, maybe? ppppsssshhhh...like it ever matters the reason. He is our of your life!