No matter the plan... we all Blog to Lose!
Paula asked a couple questions about setting a goal, so here goes. I certainly don't have it all figured out. The first time I did Weight Watchers I lost 65 pounds, kept it off for 1.5 years and then put almost all of it back on! I learned a lot from that experience--like don't do anything to lose weight that you won't do to keep the weight off. That time I was super strict, lost every week, and hardly indulged. I also wasn't very fun to be around. Haha. And when I got tired of living that way, I gained all the weight back. The next time I did Weight Watchers I took things more slowly, didn't stress (as much), and allowed myself planned/controlled indulgences every week. I again lost about 68 pounds, got pregnant and gained, and then lost that weight after having my daughter.
So the question that was asked was how I decided my ultimate goal weight. Really, it was trial and error. My initial goal was simply the top of my healthy BMI range (and yes, I know BMI is kinda a crappy measure, but it at least gave me some sort of "normal" to shoot for). For me, that was 160 (I'm 5'8). Once I got to that weight, I knew that I wasn't content with how I looked or felt, so I just kept doing what I was doing and got down to about 140. At that weight, I felt comfortable, liked the way I looked, and could maintain that weight without TOO much of a struggle. So, 140 became my kind of "benchmark."
Staying at goal can be tricky. I found that when I gained the weight back the first time, it wasn't all at once. I would put on a few pounds, get comfortable at that weight, and then a few months later put on a few more pounds, get comfortable at that weight, etc. So this time I made a deal with myself that anytime I got more than 3 pounds over my benchmark weight, I would tighten up my tracking/measuring until I got back in that good range. That has happened several times, but I have a plan in place, so I don't freak out. I know that with a few weeks of tracking points that I will be back in that zone because I never let it get too far. I will admit that I am very tied to the scale and that it can affect my mood. Now that I am at goal, it is better. While I was actively losing, a 2 lb gain would devastate me because I know how hard I worked to lose that amount. Now, if I am up 2 lbs, I know why and I know what to do, so it doesn't affect me quite as much.